As Sam the Overlooked Potential New Member prepares for sorority recruitment, she looks at her college’s Panhellenic website. She scrolls through the different pages looking for advice and a step-by-step plan to get her bid. With each page, she learns some requirements and leaves with more questions.
“It says recommendation letters are optional. Do I need recommendation letters? Will they help me?”
“How do I stand out?”
“What are members looking for in a new member?”
“What questions will the members ask me?”
I encourage you look at the University of Alabama’s Panhellenic website and see if you can find the answer to these questions.
Next, she turns to TikTok, YouTube, and Google to get advice and answers. Have you done this too?
When Sam gets her invitational schedule for Round 2, she expects to be invited back to the maximum number of sororities, 12. She was only invited to 6. You can imagine how devastated she is to only be invited back to 6 sororities. She is panicking.
Why did she not get invited back to 12 sororities? Why did so many of the sororities drop her
The information she used from TikTok, YouTube, and Google was ADVICE.
Did the advice talk about Release Figure Methodology and how some sororities DROP 70% of ALL potential new members after Round 1?
Did the advice talk about how to create a social resume that is specific to your accomplishments and not from Etsy?
Did the advice talk about how to get the members’ attention before sorority recruitment starts?
Did the advice talk about how to stand out in your conversations and leave the members wanting to speak to you again?
When you depend on Youtube, Google, and TikTok, you prepare like everyone else. You look like everyone else. When you look like everyone else, you do not stand out.
ADVICE WILL NOT GET YOU A BID. Many times, the advice women get is outdated, not relevant, or too general. When you use advice for sorority recruitment, it is like asking a friend, not in your math class, “How do I get an A+ on my test?” Your friend says, “You need to study.” This answer leaves you frustrated, and you think, “What do I need to study? Do I need to go over the practice problems? Should I re-read my notes or focus on the study guide?”
If you asked your teacher, “How do I get an A+ on my test?” She would give you a step-by-step plan.
#1. Come to class and listen.
#2. Ask questions when we are doing practice problems.
#3. Each night spend 5 minutes reviewing the practice problems.
#4. Fill out the study guide. It will be very similar to the test.
To get an A+, you needed to talk to the right person. You need to know the right information and have a plan. To get a bid to a sorority you love, you have to communicate you are the right fit for the sorority before and during sorority recruitment. A step-by-step plan tells you how and when to communicate. Then, you need to implement your plan and practice small talk.
Let’s create your step-by-step plan!
Why is creating a plan for sorority recruitment important?
At Round 1, you meet all of the sororities on your campus. Then, you vote on the sororities. You select the sororities you want to go to for Round 2, and the sororities you do not want to visit. For example, let’s look at the University of Alabama. You select 12 sororities you want to visit for Round 2.
Most assume they will be invited back to the maximum number of sororities. Most are NOT invited back to 12 sororities. Most are invited back to 4 to 8 sororities. To be invited back to a sorority, the sorority INVITES you back.
Why are so many women not invited back to 12 sororities?
Many potential new members spend weeks focusing ONLY on the material aspects of sorority recruitment – what to wear, makeup, hair, the color of their social resume, etc. It seems like the material things help you stand out and get a great score. However, the color of your social resume, a recruitment packet, a Cartier LOVE bracelet, and Golden Goose sneakers will not get a bid. To get a bid to a sorority you love, you have to communicate you are the right fit. You have to communicate BEFORE and DURING sorority recruitment. To know how and when to communicate, you want to use the CRUSH Method to gain Rush Crush Status.
THE CRUSH METHOD:
CREATE YOUR LIST
RECOGNITION BY THE MEMBERS [MEMBERS KNOW YOUR NAME]
UNLOCK YOUR POTENTIAL
STAND OUT WITH YOUR CONVERSATIONS
HAVE OPTIONS
If you want to use the CRUSH Method to get your bid, check out The Ultimate Guide to Sorority Recruitment. In this book, you use a five step process to receive your bid.
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How sororities invite back potential new members
During sorority recruitment, each sorority has to use Release Figure Methodology [RFM]. It is a mathematical model to determine the number of invitations a sorority can extend to in a round.
Here is how RFM works
If most potential new members vote to keep a sorority, Panhellenic requires them to drop more potential new members. This percentage can be as high as 70%. If we look at the University of Alabama, around 2,500 women participate in sorority recruitment each year. The most competitive and popular sororities drop around 70% after Round 1. They invite back around 750 potential new members to Round 2. RFM is similar to a popularity contest. If a sorority is very liked on campus, it will drop at a high rate after Round 1. If a sorority is not liked on campus, it will drop at a low rate after Round 1.
What does all of this mean?
Everyone is not placed on an equal playing field for Round 1. The sororities are pre-screening potential new members — looking at GPA, Instagram, etc.
How do you get your name out there?
You cannot rely on a 4.0 GPA to get a bid. GPAs are important, but many times a 3.5 is just as good as a 4.0 during sorority recruitment.
You cannot rely on legacy status. For many sororities, you are not guaranteed a bid as a legacy.
When you use a strategy, the members know your name and are excited to meet you. That is what you want, right?
HERE IS WHERE YOUR FIRST STRATEGY COMES INTO PLAY: YOUR PREPPING FOR SORORITY RECRUITMENT STRATEGY
Since the sororities study potential new members before sorority recruitment starts, you need to get on each sorority’s radar. (You have to get your name out there.) Your prepping strategy should answer, “What actions do I need to take for members to know my name?”
Here is part of the checklist we use in CRUSH [sorority recruitment coaching].
CAMPAIGN FOR YOURSELF AND PREP CORRECTLY FOR YOUR COLLEGE
#1. Register for sorority recruitment
When you register, the sororities have your name. You want to register at least one month before sorority recruitment starts. With registering early, each sorority has time to learn about you and see if you would be a good member.
Do not rush your registration! You want to make sure you are including information that you want to talk about during sorority recruitment — involvement, club, volunteer work, etc. Many times the members will use this information to pair you to talk to similar members during recruitment. They also use this information to see if you are a good fit for the sorority.
#2. Meet members
If you become friends with members, they can hype you up behind the scenes. Now, more members know who you are and root for you. It may help you get invited back to Round 2.
#3. GO PUBLIC on Instagram
Why do to go public on Instagram?
I will let you in on a secret. Most sororities look at potential new members’ Instagrams to learn about them. If your Instagram is private, they learn NOTHING about you. It does not help you get your name out there. Now, if your Instagram is PUBLIC, they can learn about who you are, what you like to do, etc. It is like an interactive social resume. Your Instagram could lead to you getting paired to talk to a member who is very similar to you. She may fall in love with you and give you the great score you deserve. This score helps you get invited back to the next round.
Here is a post all about red flags and what sorority members are looking for in your social media.
#4. Get recommendation letters
What is a recommendation letter? How does the recruitment team use recommendation letters?
A recommendation letter is similar to a job application form. It is a form that an alumna [some sororities allow members] fills out about you. This form asks for specific information about your GPA, involvement, volunteer work, hobbies & interests, legacy information, etc. It is similar to the form you fill out at registration.
The recruitment team for each sorority uses your recommendation letter to collect information on you and as a way to learn more about you. Then, they use this information to see if you are a good fit for the sorority and to pick who you should talk to during sorority recruitment.
How to send recommendation letters
STEP #1. Create a social resume and find a headshot you want to use- Editable and customizable social resume templates.
STEP #2. Create cover letters
STEP #3. Decide how you want your recommendation letters sent in -- by mail or online.
How to decide how to send in each recommendation letter
Step A. See if your Panhellenic website has information (email, online through the National sorority’s website, or through the mail)
Step B. If no information was given, the woman writing your recommendation letters uses her sorority’s national website to submit a recommendation letter
STEP #4. Find women to write your recommendation letters
STEP #5. Send each woman your information -- social resume, headshot, and packet (if necessary)
STEP #6. Send thank you card or email
You want to start this process sooner rather than later. It can be difficult to find recommendation letters for some sororities.
STEP #2: USE YOUR CONVERSATIONS TO STAND OUT
Imagine you interview two women to be your roommate. You prepared three questions to ask each woman. Based on their answers, you will pick which woman is the better fit. First, you interview Sam.
You: Where are you from?
Sam: Atlanta.
You: What do you like to do in your free time?
Sam: Hang out with my friends.
You: What are your passions?
Sam: Yoga.
Next, you interview Brooke.
You: Where are you from?
Brooke: I am from Atlanta. I love living in the city so much. For college, I wanted a different experience. I wanted to be in a small college town that loved football and had an incredible community. When I toured the University of Alabama, I fell in love with all the opportunities. I have not been to a football game yet. I am so excited about the first game!
You: Me too! I went to the the University of Alabama vs Auburn game last year, and it was so much fun! I have already planned out all of my game-day outfits.
Brooke: No way! Me too! I think that is the most fun part about the games! Which football games did you buy?
You: I bought the package with the Auburn game. My dad went to Auburn, so it is a big deal in our family.
Brooke: That is the package I bought too!! We have to go to the game together!
Before you know it, time is up. You asked Brooke one of the scripted questions. Throughout your conversation, you got off-topic and talked about the football games, your goals for college, the things you hope to accomplish, and the memories you hope to make.
Which woman will you pick to be your roommate? Sam or Brooke?
Most likely, you picked Brooke.
Why did you pick Brooke?
You could see her as a friend. You could see yourself hanging out with her on the weekends and going to the games together. You were able to have a conversation with her and connect with her. You want to do the exact same thing during sorority recruitment.
During sorority recruitment, most of your score derives from your conversation. To get a good score and be invited back to the sorority, you need to connect to the members and allow them to see you as a friend.
HERE IS WHAT HAPPENS DURING SORORITY RECRUITMENT
The members spend weeks practicing for sorority recruitment. During this time, they learn how sorority recruitment works, practice door chants, practice conversations, and more. Since the members practice conversations, they have created a script of questions to ask each potential new member. They will not break from the script unless you force them to break it.
Why will the members not break from the script?
#1. Having conversations with strangers can be difficult.
It is easy to ask the same ten questions to each potential new member. It is easy to be on autopilot mode.
#2. The recruitment team puts a lot of pressure on each member.
They want every potential new member to feel welcomed and have great conversations. When many have great conversations, it helps the sorority drop a higher percentage of potential new members. If a sorority invites back a small percentage of potential new members, it is easier to find the best fits for their sorority.
Why do most potential new members not break from the script?
Here is an example of the average potential new member’s conversation during sorority recruitment.
Member: Hi! Welcome to ABC! We are so excited you are here! My name is Kate! What is your name?
Potential new member: Hi! My name is Sam!
Member: Where are you from?
PNM: Atlanta
Member: What did you do this summer?
PNM: I worked and hung out with my friends.
Member: Where did you work?
PNM: At a restaurant
Now, give Sam a score of 1 to 10 [1 = I would never be friends with this woman, and 10 = I found my new best friend].
What score did you give her?
Most likely a 3 to 5.
Why did you give her this score?
You only learned FACTS about her. These facts did not help you see her as a friend.
During sorority recruitment, when Sam answers questions with facts, the member has a hard time asking random follow-up questions. If the member cannot think of a follow-up question, she asks Sam another scripted question. When Sam is stuck in the script, it is hard to get a great score. If she does not get a great score, the likelihood of her being invited back to the sorority is LOW.
How do you get an above-average score?
Let’s look closer at Sam’s first answer. She said, “Atlanta”. That is a fact. When you answer questions with facts, it makes it hard to keep a conversation going.
This type of answer leads to a potential new member study in the Average Conversation Cycle. If you stay in this cycle, the member goes on autopilot. When a member is on autopilot, you are asked 10 scripted questions.
The main takeaway is that the member will not break the cycle. You have to force them to break it. If the member does not break the cycle, you will most likely get an average score. Your average score may get you dropped from some sororities.
How do you force them to break it?
That is where your small talk strategy comes into play.
The 4 parts of your small talk strategy are:
#1. Mindset
#2. Excitement
#3. Signature stories
#4. Connecting with the members
When you use this strategy, the members see you as a friend. If they see you as a friend, they see you in the sorority and give you an above-average score.
Let’s look at an example of how you force the member to break the script.
Member: Where are you from?
Potential new member: I am from Atlanta. I love it there, but I am so so excited to be here. When I was touring the campus, the tour guide mentioned all of the incredible opportunities at [college name].
Will the member as another scripted question? Will you get stuck in the Average Conversation Cycle?
She asks you about the opportunities and how you want to get involved. This conversation leads to her getting to know you and connecting with you. When she goes to vote, she sees you in the sorority. AKA. You are getting an above-average score and increasing your chances of getting invited back.
THE IMPORTANCE OF CONNECTING
When you picked your roommate,
Did you care what her favorite color was?
Did you care how many boxes she was going to bring when moving in?
Probably not. Most likely, you picked someone who wanted a similar experience for college and lived a similar life to you.
The same idea applies to sorority recruitment. The members look for women who are similar to the current members. They want you to join and be able to find immediate friends. To receive a bid, you have to communicate that you are similar to them. You have to allow the members to connect with you.
To learn more about the small talk strategy, check out The Ultimate Guide to Sorority Recruitment. In this book, you learn:
What questions the members will ask you
How to answer the questions [and examples]
Conversation mistakes potential new members make
How to prepare correctly for your college
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STEP #3. PREPARE YOUR ANSWERS TO THE SCRIPTED QUESTIONS
Examples of questions you might be asked.
Where are you from?
How do you want to get involved on campus?
What are some of your passions?
What are you looking for in a sorority?
When creating your answers to the scripted questions, it can seem overwhelming. It may feel like you have to say the “right” things. To be completely honest with you, the members do not care what your answers are. They will not pick 5 business majors, 5 psychology majors, 5 teaching majors, etc. The members look for connections with the women they are talking to. When you connect to a member, she can see you in herself and the sorority. This connection will help you get invited back.
How do you force them to break it?
That is where your small talk strategy comes into play.
The 3 parts of your small talk strategy are:
#1. Body language
#2. Mindset
#3. Make connections with guaranteed questions
When you use this strategy, the members will see you as a friend. If they can see you as a friend, they can see you in the sorority and will give you an above-average score.
Let’s look at an example of how you force the member to break the script.
Member: Where are you from?
Potential new member: I am from Atlanta. I love it there, but I am so so excited to be here. When I was touring the campus, the tour guide mentioned all of the incredible opportunities at the University of Alabama.
DO YOUTUBE AND TIKTOK HELP YOU STAND OUT OR GAIN RUSH CRUSH STATUS DURING SORORITY RECRUITMENT?
When you depend on Youtube and TikTok for advice, you prepare like everyone else. When you look like everyone else, you do not stand out. If a sorority can only invite back 30% of all PNMs, how will you show them that you deserve to be in the top 30%?
Instead of using advice and being the Overlooked Potential New Member, you want to use a step-by-step plan to gain Rush Crush status -- stand out, have options, and run home to a sorority you love. Click the video below to see how CRUSH [sorority recruitment coaching] can help you create and implement your plan.
INFORMATION ABOUT SORORITY RECRUITMENT AT the University of Alabama
What to wear for each round
Open House: Many will wear a t-shirt and shorts or a tennis skirt. You will not need to dress up because the sororities will not see you.
Philanthropy Round: For this round, you will receive a t-shirt from Panhellenic. For bottoms, you can wear shorts, a skirt, or jeans.
Sisterhood Round. For this round, you want to wear a dress or romper with wedges, platforms, or nice sandals.
Pref. For this round, you want to wear a nice dress or jumpsuit with heels.
Examples of what to wear
Philanthropy Round
Sisterhood Round
Pref
Sororities at the University of Alabama
Alpha Chi Omega
Alpha Delta Pi
Alpha Gamma Delta
Alpha Omicron Pi
Alpha Phi
Chi Omega
Delta Delta Delta
Delta Gamma
Delta Zeta
Gamma Phi Beta
Kappa Alpha Theta
Kappa Delta
Kappa Kappa Gamma
Phi Mu
Pi Beta Phi
Sigma Kappa
Zeta Tau Alpha
Quota for 2022 (Quota is the minimum number of bids a sorority needs to give out)
Around 130
Smallest chapter size for 2020 was 271
Largest chapter size for 2020 was 462
GOOD LUCK WITH SORORITY RECRUITMENT! I’M ROOTING FOR YOU!
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You have a math test in two weeks that is worth 90% of your grade for the class. You want to get an A. You are looking for guidance on how to get your A.
First, you ask a friend, not in your math class, “How do I get an A+ on my test?” She says, “You need to study.” This answer leaves you frustrated.
Then, you ask your teacher, “How do I get an A+ on my test?” She gives you a step-by-step plan.
Who was more helpful?
Your teacher, right?
To get an A, you need to know the right information and have a step-by-step plan.
To get a bid to a sorority you love, you have to communicate you are the right fit for the sorority before and during sorority recruitment. A step-by-step plan tells you how and when to communicate.
BUT… why do so many women going through sorority recruitment ONLY use the advice they find on Youtube and TikTok? Does it help them stand out and get a bid?
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